But Overthinking Is Not Solving the Real Problem… Just Distracting You From It
Let’s be honest, if spinning in your head burned calories, you’d need to be housing ribeyes and cake on the reg to keep up.
But overthinking doesn’t give you abs. It gives you anxiety, migraines, decision fatigue, and a deep, confusing ache that whispers,
Why do I still feel so stuck when I’ve done all the work?
Let’s talk about it.
Overthinking Feels Productive. That’s the Trap.
It’s sneaky.
You get overwhelmed.
So you grab a notebook, start making a plan, replay that convo for the 17th time, obsess over how to say the right thing or make the right move.
You think you’re doing something.
You feel in control.
But here’s the truth bomb: Overthinking is not clarity. It’s survival.
It’s your nervous system scanning for danger and trying to think its way to safety because actually feeling the fear, the anger, the grief, the failure… feels too damn risky.
So you loop. And loop. And loop.
“I’m Not Overthinking, I’m Just Really Self-Aware”
Sis. No. Self-awareness is knowing your patterns.
Overthinking is being your patterns.
It’s what happens when your brain tries to outsmart your body.
When logic becomes some sort of armor.
When certainty feels safer than surrender (hi, control issues 👋).
But you can’t think your way into feeling calm in your mind and in your body.
You have to feel your way there. And most of us were taught to do the exact opposite.
So What’s Really Underneath the Spiral?
Overthinking is often masking something deeper and more tender…
Fear of abandonment
Fear of failure
Fear of being too much or not enough
A lifetime of feeling responsible for everything (and/or everyone)
You weren’t taught how to sit with those things which is why your brain spins. It feels more productive. More safe. More efficient.
That’s not a mindset issue. It’s a nervous system response.
Let’s Interrupt the Loop. Right Now.
You don’t need a 42-step healing protocol to come back to yourself.
Try this (for real, right now)…
Orienting (60 seconds max)
Look around the room. Slowly. Name five things you see.
Notice four things you can touch.
Now, name three sounds you hear.
Identify two things you can smell.
Name one thing you can taste.
Feel your feet. Take a breath… a real one. Big inhale through your nose and let it go out of your mouth with sound.
You’re back. You’re here. You’re safe.
Your thoughts might still be buzzing, but you’re no longer inside the storm.
You’re Not Crazy. You’re Just Wired for Protection.
This isn’t about blaming your brain.
It’s about reclaiming your body.
The part of you that knows.
That feels.
That’s been waiting for you to stop planning your healing and actually experience it.
Ready to Stop Thinking So Hard and Start Living Again?
This is what I do.
I work with smart, self-aware women who are sick of circling the same damn patterns and finally want to land in peace, clarity, and the kind of grounded confidence you can’t get from a journal prompt.
This work is real.
It’s embodied.
And it lasts.
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You don’t need to think your way through one more thing.
You just need to land in the truth already living in your body.
Xo,
Diane
